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    The Slippery Slope

    January 22, 2007 by Brandy Vencel

    I shared E.’s birth story in The Bad Beginning. When it came time to birth A., the words of my OB from the first C-section came back to me: “I wouldn’t let you labor next time. It’s sure to happen again.”

    We had moved to a new city, and I had a new OB {the OB that delivered me, incidently} who gently encouraged me to have a VBAC, but I was too terrified after my previous experience, and this OB was too sweet to push me to do something that scared me.

    I was also uninformed. If I knew what I now know about VBACs, I would have made an attempt at labor {without the Pitocin, of course}. But I didn’t. All I knew was that my prior experience was awful and I didn’t want a repeat, even though I hated surgery.

    A few days before my scheduled C with A., I went for my last visit to the nurse practitioner. She told me that A. had already descended to -2 station and that I was beginning to dilate. She was surprised I wasn’t trying a VBAC, and pushed a little harder than my OB ever did to encourage me to try.

    I felt like the bride who finds out something terrible about the groom, but after all the invitations were mailed and the shower gifts opened. I hated to cancel the wedding. And so I didn’t.

    This C-section went much better overall, but this time the anesthesiologist was terrible. One would guess this was her first time. She had difficulty finding the correct spot for the spinal block and spent at least ten minutes knocking on my back.

    A. was born at 8:18am, weighing 7 pounds 5 ounces. She was beautiful. Si and I fell in love with her immediately. But the hardest part of the recovery was my back. Even without an infected surgery site, it was eight long weeks before I felt like I could do something simple like take a walk or stand up long enough to cook dinner.

    I vowed never to have another child because the recovery was so hard. Later, I learned a lot about VBACs and what improves the odds of success. So I vowed never to have another C-section. I didn’t realize we were already down the slippery slope, and I was determined to try and make it work.


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  • Reply Hayley January 18, 2013 at 5:21 am

    I’m glad you had more, despite your recovery experience!

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