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    Quotables: Raising Real Men

    September 27, 2011 by Brandy Vencel
    Raising Real Men
    by Hal and Melanie Young

    [W]e had to rebuke sin but should not change our boys into something they were not. {p. 18}

    It’s our job to make him a protector and not a bully. {p. 25}

    Our focus must be on leading our sons into godly manhood, not just trying to manage them to make our lives convenient and more pleasant. {p. 25}

    Let’s commit ourselves to doing the extra laundry and living with the noise… {p. 26}

    His tastes are unformed and just like with food, what seems most appealing on the surface is often not nutritious at all. If you wouldn’t serve your son candy and ice cream at every meal, the diet of his mind and soul shouldn’t be exclusively candy, either. {p. 35}

    After several months without TV at home, we went on a trip and stayed at a motel. We were so excited to be able to watch TV again for a little while–until we turned it on. We were shocked at what we saw! “What had happened to our culture in those few short months?” was our first thought. Suddenly we realized that nothing had changed but us. {p. 36}

    [T]he First Amendment applies to the government, not our living room. {p. 38}

    Collections of short missionary biographies can give your younger boys a taste for missionary heroism and show them it’s not the sinners that have the best adventures. {p. 41}

    They will have heroes. For their own sakes, make sure they’re the right ones. {p. 45}

    The question for us as parents is how to channel a God-given desire for adventure into productive, God-honoring endeavors, rather than let it slide into pointless, potentially self-destructive recklessness. Can we send them off with a cheer, or must it be with fear? {p. 49}

    That protection shouldn’t become the unmanning of our sons, though. Boys need to have the freedom to take reasonable risks. You don’t let them play in traffic, but you shouldn’t cringe in horror as they climb the jungle gym. {p. 51}

    Reckless behavior, particularly in young boys, may be the uncontrolled expression of a legitimate, even godly, desire to strive after great and noble deeds. {p. 51}

    When they understand that Christianity offers not only a way of life but something worth dying for, they may also realize the foolishness of risking death for nothing. {p. 52}

    [W]e need to look for opportunities for them to take reasonable and productive risks. It is very important at this point, that when sons begin to step out that mothers don’t undermine them. {p. 53}

    Here’s a rule of thumb: If he hasn’t faced the trial yet, or he’s in the midst of it–encourage him. If he’s been to the wars and is limping home wounded–comfort him. {p. 54}

    The Word says, “He who is faithful in what is least is faithful also in much,” so we had a plan: give the boys as much responsibility as they could handle as soon as they were able and give them more as they showed themselves faithful.” {p. 59}

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  • Reply Pam... September 27, 2011 at 10:08 pm

    Yes. Good boy quotes. My mind is on boys right now too. Trying to figure out what to get them for Christmas (ages 11-18). I found this vintage Snap Circuits set to begin with. This little car that climbs the wall. Robotic stuff that is WAY too much, but very cool.I know my teens lean toward the technology…but I want to throw in some cool stuff they never would have thought of too!

    Thinking, thinking. (I’m just sitting around anyway!) 🙂

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