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    Quotables: Raising Real Men

    September 28, 2011 by Brandy Vencel
    Raising Real Men
    by Hal and Melanie Young

    The secret is just what Scripture lays out: A tiny bit of responsibility is given, and when that is handled faithfully, give more. {p. 63}

    Since their playtime is training for adulthood, we don’t allow the boys to point toy guns at each other, either. {p. 73}

    A willingness to face a crowd sets a young man apart. {p. 94}

    The reality of leadership is just as Christ said–service. {p. 97}

    [T]hey love to feel needed. {p. 117}

    There’s something about real work, really being needed, that is much more satisfying than play. {p. 118}

    All children…want to contribute to the family. {p. 119}

    The time and occasional expense we “waste” teaching them are an investment in the efficient running of our home–and theirs, one day. {p. 120}

    It means a lot for the son to be a contributor, even if you can’t afford to pay him directly. {p. 121}

    Some folks would feel sorry for the poor kids giving up their free time to work, denying themselves all the fun they could have had with that money. Somehow, it’s doubtful Christ would share that perspective. {p. 122}

    The goal is not to raise well-mannered heathen. {p. 127}

    [T]he most important part of a family time of worship is doing it. It’s far better that you worship with your children every day for a few minutes instead of doing an hour and a half marathon and then not getting around to it again for weeks afterward. {p. 132}

    Our rule now is “Obey first, then ask me why, and I’ll be glad to explain.” That’s when you find out who really wants to understand, and who was just stalling for time. {p. 136}

    Another interesting item from the research collected by Dr. Sax and others is that boys tend to learn better under stress. When a boy–or man–is concentrating hard, he often will bite his lip or stick our his tongue; it’s  mild discomfort that seems to focus his thinking. It’s another area where mothers and sons see things differently; moms naturally try to reduce stress, when it actually may be hampering progress. {p. 167}

    [T]he guiding principles are consideration and humility. {p. 173}

    Even in our merit-based society, proper grammar and correct table manners seem to mark a man’s class at first meeting, so we’ve expected our children to learn both. {p. 173}

    We Americans have such a variety of low-cost food that we can indulge the luxury of pickiness. Obviously, this is an unwise habit for a young man going into the world. {p. 174}

     [I]f it comes to eating it or offending someone, they should be prepared to eat it. {p. 176}

    It is important that men not be afraid to get and be dirty. Where would our world be if the Allied forces had been unable to stand trench life in World War I? {p. 179}

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  • Reply Rahime September 30, 2011 at 6:53 pm

    “Since their playtime is training for adulthood, we don’t allow the boys to point toy guns at each other, either. {p. 73}”

    I like seeing this one in here! 🙂 Not to be the gun nut, or anything, but I definitely fall in the camp that would allow (and encourage?) my children to play with toy guns….but same rules apply as “playing” with real ones.

    Looks like an overall good book. I also definitely like the mindset of not over-protecting young men, but rather allowing them to take some risks (which, frankly, they’ll do anyways).

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