–Charlotte Mason, Home Education
Sometimes, our need for expediency isn’t all bad — it pushes us in the direction we ought to be going anyhow. I will admit that I have a tendency to baby this youngest child of mine because there aren’t any children coming up after him. This means I’m not starting phonics lessons with someone else, which was the case when all of his siblings were his age — and this in turn means that finishing his reading lessons isn’t as much on my radar as it was with the others.
In addition to this, I’m doing all of these books for the last time and reading aloud allows me to savor them all. I never asked any of my older children to read their own books in second grade, so doing this is actually unusual, and yet he is older than any of them were at this stage (he turned eight the first week of the school year) and I knew he was ready to try. Holding him back, just so I can enjoy a leisurely reading with him, isn’t the best thing. I learned this the hard way with my oldest. An exceptionally early reader, he could have read all the books on his own in first grade, which of course I didn’t want him to do. Reading aloud is, as most of you know, also a bonding experience. So I read first grade aloud to him. And then I did second. And then third. I mean, we were having such a good time, and I still didn’t have any other students to speak of.
But then fourth grade came. I started first grade with my second child, and my third and fourth children were getting wild. (Did I ever tell you about the time they escaped from the house during one of Daughter A.’s reading lessons? My elderly neighbor found them dancing in the pouring rain in the middle of the street. They were two and four and I was so embarrassed when she knocked on the door and ushered them into the house.) In the midst of this craziness, I thought it’d be great if Son E. just started reading it all on his own. I mean, he was perfectly capable.
That was dropping him into the deep end and I later realized I created a great amount of stress in his life when I moved to eliminate it from my own. This is how I learned a lesson the hard way, which brings me to my first point on moving our children toward independent reading.
1. Ease into it.
I’m not going to say there is never a reason to suddenly have them read all their books on their own, but in general I think easing is a superior approach. My oldest was an excellent reader, and still it was hard for him to go from no reading on his own to everything but Shakespeare and Plutarch and Robinson Crusoe. (I know you’re wondering why I thought that was a good idea. I have no clue.)
If the general goal is to have them reading independently by fourth grade (which I did with my first and third children but my second child wasn’t ready in fourth), then we can work backwards. A lot of children can’t read anything on their own in first grade, and I think that’s fine. But then, with second grade, it’s generally wise, if there is a book they can do, to have them do it on their own. I started this, as I said, last week with my youngest. He was in the last week of the first term of second grade. I had him try a chapter of Our Island Story one day, and a page of Tree in the Trail on a different day. Our Island Story was a bit of a struggle. I’d asked him to do the whole chapter (but told him to come narrate halfway through). I ended up reading the second half aloud. My mini-crisis had passed, and I felt like the half-chapter had been enough of a challenge for one day.
He did so well, I’ll be choosing one or two readings for him to try on his own each week.
When third grade rolled around for my girls, I chose a book off the list that I knew they could do, and assigned them that book on their own. For my second child, this was enough. She struggled. For my third child, she loved it so much that she asked for more. She loved that school was more efficient because she didn’t have to wait for me to read to her.
I think it’s helpful to choose a chapter here and there before handing a whole book over — this way if you have to take the book back because it’s proven too difficult, it doesn’t feel like a big deal to the child.
2. Train them to stop and narrate.
When they start reading for themselves, their temptation will be to plow through the whole reading assignment at once. Stop this before it starts! I didn’t do this with my two older children, and then we had to back up and break bad habits. Just as you might stop in the middle of a chapter, so they must learn to do the same. Now, granted, some children really can narrate a whole chapter, even when they are young. That’s fine! But if your child normally needs you to break the chapter up in order to be able to narrate well, discuss that before he begins to read on his own. You can even mark little breaks on the pages and instruct him to come narrate each time he reaches a break.
3. Don’t forget all we’ve learned about helping our students with hard books.
Reading “on their own” doesn’t mean zero guidance. You can still start a reading with, “What happened last time we read this book?” You can still review any vocabulary that might arise in the chapter. And so on and so forth.
4. Read the first few chapters aloud before handing a book off.
I still remember the first time I did this. It was fifth grade and the book was Kim by Rudyard Kipling. This book was a huge challenge for us, but it ended up being one of our favorites. When I first glanced at it, I knew I was setting my son up for failure by just handing the book to him. So instead I told him that books teach us how to read them. The first few chapters are our adjustment chapters. They are hard, and sometimes the point isn’t to understand everything but to simply come to a place where we can more easily read the book. I read the first chapter aloud. And then the second … and third. I don’t remember exactly when I handed it over, but I know I read those three chapters aloud for sure. I remember him saying, “Mom! You’re right! The book taught me how to read it!”
He read the rest of it on his own and he did fine. I really think reading the first bits aloud — letting him hear a fluent reading of the words — helped immensely. (If a book like this hard for you, then you might want to follow along with your child using an audio book instead.) This isn’t necessary for all books, of course, but it’s handy for a book you know will be an extra challenge.
5. Remember: one reading followed by narration.
As the quote above reminds us, when children are beginning to read for themselves, we have to guard the concept of a single reading followed by narration. This habit — of reading only once — is how they are trained to read carefully the first time. So, when handing over a book, make sure they know the ground rules: read and then narrate; do not review before you come to Mom. This is important.
6. Have your child read aloud.
Just because he’s finished his phonics lessons doesn’t mean coaching is no longer necessary. Having your child read aloud to you regularly helps you know where he is weak and strong. I have been known to write down the fumbled words in order to see if there are any patterns in the words that are a struggle. For example, if a child struggles over main and rain and pain then a review of the ai sound is in order. Make sense?
I’m not saying correct every single word when it’s a problem. Have you read Understood Betsy? If not, read it and then you’ll know why I say this. But having him read aloud helps him develop as a reader and helps you know where he still needs instruction.
7. Pray for your children.
The Holy Spirit is their Helper in all their troubles, even troubles in their lessons. Teach them to turn to Him when they don’t understand, to ask for wisdom. This is the essential lesson of Charlotte Mason’s Great Recognition.
A final thought…
I know it can be scary and/or frustrating when you start handing books over. You wonder if they are getting it. You worry they can’t do it. Or something. We all do this in our minds.
Take a deep breath.
Learning to read on their own is more important than any one lesson (or even a book) that you feel went badly.
You know what? It’s okay if the book is a challenge. I remember my pastor once telling a friend of mine that she should always be reading a book that is a challenge — this is how you become a better reader. A “challenge” doesn’t have to mean a horrible experience. It doesn’t have to mean everybody hates the book in the end. In regard to my friend, she was showing a book she had read that was “way over her head” and yet … she loved it.
I think our children can experience this, and I have found that they often rise to the occasion. I cannot tell you how many times I have handed a book over with fear and trembling. Can she do it? Will it be okay? I doubt my wisdom, but I also doubt the wisdom in reading the book aloud. The vast majority of the time, the child rises to the occasion. I am always shocked and amazed.
Remember: the main way you can tell how the book is going is through the quality of the narrations you receive. So pay attention and if the narrations are going poorly, start doing your detective work to discover why, and make whatever adjustments you deem necessary. You’ll be glad you did.
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